Those who are bold enough to ask questions here at the @ are rewarded with my attempt at an answer, most of the time. If said commenter is a family member then their inquiries take top priority to me. It’s just the way I roll. Yesterday on the “Who and Whose” post, my sister, a fellow mother on this rocky path of parenthood, asked a question:
A familiar list proclaims the traits that we are encouraged to let grow in our lives: love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance.
Let’s look at that meekness bit. A good definition I have heard is: strength under control. That is fine and well. Adding on to that thought I might add that meekness is humble confidence. A meek person knows where and from whom the strength in their life emanates. They are confident in the identity that God has placed in them as a unique being. They add to that confidence and strength the beautiful humility drawn out of a life placed in the hands of the God of love, grace, acceptance and hope.
That answers what we are working into our existence. The question is how do we do it.You know I love lists! Take what you want, leave the rest and add on some practical ideas in the comment section if you wish. I welcome the creative collaboration in the parenting of our children.
- Model it.
- Speak of it.
- Praise it in others.
- Praise it in the child.
- Read of it.
- Show it in picture books.
- Know what your child does well.
- Provide outlets for them to do what they do well.
- Praise what they do well.
- Know what your child does not do well.
- Speak with them about what they do not do well.
- Help them find ways to overcome deficiencies by trusting other people.
- Help them to see the strengths in other people.
- Help them to praise the strengths in other people.
- Let them express creatively their appreciation for others: drawings, writing, phone calls, sharing gifts, genuine smiles and thanks.
- Introduce please and thank you into your daily vocabulary.
- Thank the child, sincerely.
- Let them see you making other people important.
- Hang their art in your home.
- Pray together with them confident and humble prayers.
Those are the first few that came to mind. Please do not take this as gospel. Each parent has their own journey to walk. Trust that the Lord is alongside you as you love your kids. May the God of peace be with you all.