Birth Stories – 5 – Tyler

bunny birth stories logoMy redeemer baby came many years after my first three: bam, bam, bam. When I had an inkling I might be pregnant again I had a talk with God. I was embarrassed and sad that I had cried at the news of my first 3 pregnancies. I didn’t want that to be the case this time.

I felt the sweet voice of God releasing me and redeeming me when He said, “You can be as happy about this child as I was with the news of your first three pregnancies.” Wow! God rejoiced over Raimy, Timothy, and Gabrielle. Now God Himself was telling me I was pregnant even before I peed on the stick of the home pregnancy test. Wow.  Yes, I was so happy. The whole pregnancy was normal, healthy, and good. I was thrilled. I would be giving birth to my redeemer baby in Bolivia.

His due date came and went. The doctor became nervous. He talked of c-section, the cord around his neck, too short cord not letting him drop, and too big of a baby. I begged for an induction – to give it a try. He said I would have to sign a waiver that I was choosing against the doctor’s suggestions and I would be held responsible for any consequences, including fatalities. Ah! I felt backed into a corner, powerless, lorded-over, bullied with no where to turn. We finally agreed to schedule the c-section.

The whole procedure was sterile, mechanical, and impersonal. It felt routine and professional yet joyless. I was very glad we were able to talk them into allowing DaRonn into the room. They invited DaRonn to watch Tyler come out of the cut they had made. He chose to stay beside me. They brought him out and exclaimed that the cord was wrapped around the neck twice. So, it turned out that their assessment of a short cord was incorrect – the cord was long enough, just caught up around his neck a few times.

Tyler Cole Washington was born the morning of September 7, 2006 in Cochabamba, Bolivia. His weight was similar to the first 3 at just over 7 pounds. This was considered “huge” in Bolivia where the babies are around 5 or 6 pounds usually.

Having a c-section is like a natural birth in reverse and in slow motion. The slow pain of recovery from the surgery lasts weeks compared to the relatively fast and intense hours of labor pains. I don’t recommend a c-section if it can be avoided.

Tyler was the most fun, most adored infant. He is my Bolivian boy.

The photo on the right shows Tyler as a newborn. In the photos with his older siblings he is 1 month old.
The photo on the right shows Tyler as a newborn. In the photos with his older siblings he is 1 month old.

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If for nothing else (aside from the obvious joy of bringing the birth of my son) the c-section was useful to point me in the path of midwifery. I didn’t know until that day when a natural birth was “robbed” from me that I had such a great passion for midwifery, natural birth, and helping women enjoy the process of pregnancy, labor, and delivery the way their bodies know how to do it. For that part, I am grateful. Even the c-section experience will be redeemed.

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7 thoughts on “Birth Stories – 5 – Tyler

    1. You did not know this about me because it is a dream that has been gestating, if you will, for quite some time and only until recently have I felt the urge to push it out into reality. These Birth Stories are the soft launch to the broader public beyond my close friends and family of my intentions to pursue this skill, this calling. I am investigating how to become trained considering the logistics of my geography and starting from zero medical training whatsoever. We are getting ahead of ourselves though… I plan on talking about my transition to Midwifery after a few more Birth Stories posts. :-)

      1. This is going to be awesome. Can’t wait to see it all happen! I used to have dreams of being a doula overseas and even took the training course before moving. But my language skills aren’t good enough — only studied for 6 months. Fluency shouldn’t be a problem for you though! I will just have to live vicariously through you :)

          1. Yes, I had grand dreams of forming relationships through birth work — not medical work, just support. I took the CAPPA course, and my doula trainer was a Christian, and just absolutely amazing, I learned so much from her, things I should have learned in 10 years of ministry but hadn’t. I went in with my pre-conceived ideas about what *I* would be doing (ie going in and saving women from not having sufficient labor support), but God had something different in mind. He gave me a lot of freedom through that experience — the freedom of knowing I can’t change anyone, all I can do is be there for them, in all areas of life. This was huge. And then, of course, moving here and realizing you need incredible fluency to do such intimate work, as you say. But also, having taken this course (and the labor and breastfeeding classes that were also required) has opened up doors for women to ask me questions, because I have all these resources. And so I learned that what my ideas for how God was going to use my doula training were different from what actually happened, but it was certainly NOT a waste of time or money. It was invaluable! (Of course I am not saying this is going to happen to you, I am only explaining my story.)

  1. I knew you had had a caesarean for one of your babies but hadn’t known why. I definitely think caesareans have their place but for a woman having her 4th baby, it just makes sense to try induction first! Makes me sad when power is taken from women in that way.

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